The study explores the unexamined experiences of legally married or common-law husbands who faced violence in the province of Ilocos Norte. Six participants were included, each representing different municipalities within the province: Paoay, Marcos, Batac, Pasuquin, Bacarra, and Laoag. Qualitative design was employed to gather and evaluate non-numerical data—such as text, video, or audio—to understand concepts, opinions, and experiences through a phenomenological approach to gain deep insights into the participants relational experiences. Colaizzis seven-step method was used to analyze the gathered data, which led to three primary themes: violence, cause, and behavior. The violence theme encompasses the different types of violence experienced by men, with physical and verbal violence as key sub-themes, indicating that men, like women and children, are subject to these forms of abuse. Cause themes include sub-themes such as alcohol consumption, which is the most common reason for a spouse/partner becoming violent financial issues that lead to misunderstandings jealousy, which is unavoidable behavior caused by a desire to protect a relationship or a family relationships begin by securing their beginnings with positive memories, which eventually deteriorate over time by revealing the true behavior after facing some challenges within the relationship and mens irresponsibility toward their spouses requests, which leads to their violent experiences. The behavior theme includes sub-themes such as avoidance—referring to the evasion of undesirable situations, hesitancy in reporting due to the hope for change, and seeking help from close loved ones to avoid humiliation. These coping strategies, typically associated with women, were found to be prevalent among men as well. It thus demonstrates that men, despite their manliness and competence, can experience the same things as women. In fostering a violence-free community, recommendations include symposiums to raise awareness on violence against men, establishing specific programs for men to address domestic or spousal concerns, creating a support system for men dealing with violence, and organizing group activities to support and encourage men to share their experiences with violence.